Dream, Just dream!

Aim for the moon. If you miss, you will definitely hit the stars.

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We all have heard the famous quote. But have you practically used it?

We all have our own individual dreams. We seek particular things and experiences. But predominantly, we all wanna be successful. Now, the road to success isn’t easy, as we all know it. Is more demanding than any other thing. You need a large tank of fuel to drive on these long and rocky journeys. Which is definitely your dreams and aspirations.

Let’s consider your journey as a road trip from the place you are right now to who you wanna be, the things you wanna accomplish. In this journey, there are uphills, tough to climb. Yet providing alluring insights into life at their peaks. There are likewise low, deep downfalls. Where you may break down, only to rise up. You have the people accompanying you on your road trip, including lovers, admirers, and haters.

The aftereffect of this journey depends upon the above factors, conjointly on the paths pegged by you. The number and duration of halts you take, and speed of your progress.

Aiming for the universe- Dreaming biggest!

We all have different aspirations. Maybe you are aiming to become a great entrepreneur. Maybe your best friend wants to become an agent and your life partner wants to literally touch the stars,i.e to become an astronaut. But ask yourself one question that, is it really enough? or is it really the best you can do?

Dreaming fuels you, that’s true. But dreaming bigger even than your imagination inspires you. It drives you. You become focused. The obstacles seem undisclosable to you, objectively speaking.

If your dreams are heftier than people around you, then your actions would be much more different, productive and exceptional. Because you are dreaming exceptions, that no one other could. Again, it doesn’t make you any superior to those around you. because your competition is not in your neighborhood. It’s not even with the world. It’s with yourself.

The limit is not the sky, not the universe. There are no limits. It’s limitless.

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Action plan

Now, just dreaming and making up all the scenarios when you will be successful, isn’t gonna cut the cake! You have to take those demanding actions. You must be willing to thrive for your dream. Give your focus, energies, everything towards your dream. Because its the only thing you wanna achieve then why not do it in the best way we can? Since your dreams are extraordinary now, so should be your actions. For long-haul dreams, start doing the small things very crucial towards your dream, right now. Paint the bigger picture. Work through it.

See, its really important that your actions are pointing in Ithe same directions as your dreams.  You don’t want to just do hard work in the wrong direction. Be a hotshot and an adroit.

Believe

What’s the use if you don’t believe in what you are doing, where do you think its gonna lead you?  Belief is a key quality to achieve your dreams. All the great people in the world didn’t know how they were gonna do it. But they believed strongly that they were gonna achieve it. They just knew that. The question is, do you?

If you are not considering what you are doing as fruitful, you are not only just wasting your time but also literally insulting your dream. I am sorry but such dreams are never accomplished. Believe in yourself. Believe in your actions.

Facing the results

It was a perfect day. I had prepared for this moment for forever. I did everything perfectly. Still, I failed. That was just misluck.

If you ever did think like that, I am there to say right into your face that it was not. Its never ever a misfortune or devils own luck. Whatever happens with you is a consequence of what action you take, and what you think. Trust me, the law of attraction is there. It’s not gonna disappear just because you don’t find it useful.

So if you fail it’s your fault. Trivial maybe, but it is. There was just something inadequate in your path. Detect it. Correct it. Revamp your method. Try again. Failure is nothing if you stand up proudly to face the music. It takes time. But if anybody can complete your exceptional dreams, it is you.

When you finally achieve what you want, it will be new, shiny jubilant and much much more. You think you will finally be satisfied with your life and will rest for the rest of your life? No, you won’t. you have experienced one of the most beautiful feelings in the world. Your mind wants more of it. You won’t stop. You will keep achieving those medals, certificates, etc.

So this is it! Make yourself mindful, and start your journey from right now. Accomplish those things out there waiting for you. GO, GO, GO!

 

 

 

Declutter: proven ways to declutter your mind.

What is decluttering?

The human brain is still undiscovered for the most of its part. While we don’t know much of its complexities, we do sometimes have some complex things going on in there. These things weave themselves into one another to create utter chaos. At such times our mind gets filled with a lot of things which it shouldn’t have. Its such times we need to declutter our mind.

Why?

When our mind gets cluttered, it has several bad effects. These start small, but if they are not properly taken care of they can potentially grow and trouble you. They cause various effects like lack of decisive capacity,low-temper, degradation of performance in every aspect of your self and much more things. which is why it is something probably should be taken care of.

The cause- Identifying the problem.

Research says that we think about 60k thoughts a day. Every person thinks differently. That’s why there are different causes for everyone to feel the need to declutter his/hers mind.

Stress due to negativity

We have our own low times. Its okay to feel sad or disappointed. but if these emotions are allowed to have space in our mind they create havoc and causes stress triggers. These emotions can be due to various states like depression, anxiety, fear and many more.

Work

Of course! We work in different circumstances and more importantly, we have different kinds of yelly bosses. It is completely natural to feel stressed while working which is also the reason why it is important to stay away from stress as much as possible.

Self- doubt

Often we come across various ideas and beliefs. These may be in contrast with what you already believe in. This causes you to question your own beliefs. That’s why you need to clear on the inside.

Following are some proven most effective to declutter your mind-

Journals

Since your mind is greatly unorganized, let’s start making your schedule(including your thought processes)by keeping track of them. Journals are a great way to keep track of your emotions, schedule and everything that comes in between. There are various techniques you can use right from now

Grattitude log

To overcome your anxiety you may create a gratitude log to keep track of the beautiful things and relations and emotions and everything that you have. Read those every single day and add new items to your list every day. They will tremendously help you in keeping yourself optimistic as you notice only whats god inside of you.

Fast-o-thoughts

This is a 20 minutes exercise to get yourself to know what exactly are you thinking by getting it on paper.

Set the timer of 20 minutes. Take a deep breath and start thinking for like 30 seconds. just after 30 seconds start writing thoughts you are thinking at that particular moment. Start at 00:30 to 20:00 without a break. Just do it. This is a great way to identify your trigger points and deal with them more clearly.

Share

Human relations are the most amazing things in the world. They can heal any type of wounds in the heart. No matter how deep they are. That’s why sharing with your loved ones what you are feeling will help you declutter a lot. It’s not silly or even cheesy to share things.  According to the research interviews conducted by me it proved to be 71% more effective when done right away. So find the people where you can share your emotions.

You can also use various online platforms for this. And don’t forget, my email Id has its doors always open for you.

Love is the strongest positive emotion.

 

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Physical decluttering

As you want to declutter your mind, your vision should also be clean. Just clean your workspace, your room. As your eyes perceive everything as organized it will help your mind to let unwanted things go this method has proven 90% effective. Because-

Your mind percieves what it sees.

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Media Intake

There are 7 billion people out there! Everyone thinks differently. Everyone has their own principles, values and even sense of humor. when we continuously watch those different series, those different articles(including this one!) There will be much clutter inside your mind. you will have a tough time making decisions because there is a lack of root principles. So to avoid that, stop watching TV, Netflix and whatever you do which has the potential to make your mind chaos.

Zone out

Go out for a walk, not just because you want to take your dog for one but because you need to. Just go out there and observe the things around you, preferably try to not to listen to music. Just observe what’s going on. This will help you a lot to remove those unwanted and unimportant thoughts. It will free up some space in your mind.

You may want to do exercise while going out for a walk. It is proven to double the effectiveness of the method.

Zone in

If for some reason you are not able to go out, then don’t worry we got you covered. You can stay home and declutter your mind with triple the effectiveness. You can meditate. Don’t try to skip this one! I repeat don’t scroll down! Meditating is nothing but breathing. You may breathe any way you please. Just take deep breaths for a little while. If you don’t want to do meditation fine! Just breathe!

Relax

Do nothing at all! Probably the best way! Just take a break. Do nothing. Just look at the sunset or just sleep or – go through- no, don’t do that. In fact, don’t do anything. Just relax! Because sometimes,

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When comfort is not enough.

Yubing Zhang an ambitious woman, was standing on the worlds largest bungee jumping platform. She was just a few seconds away before the jump. And she realized that her mind was telling her, “you can’t do this.” The operator tied the cord to her ankle. she could feel the weight of the rope as the operator throws the slack in the air.she was standing on the edge of the platform trying to balance herself against the wind. A moment later, she turned back and told the operator that she wants to quit. that she couldn’t do it. Right when she turned away from the platform, she read a quote that was right on the glass in front of her. It read,

Life begins at the edge of your comfort zone.

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She turned right back and jumped from the platform.
And what did she find? She found that this is the beauty she was wanting to see. this is the beauty she was wanting to experience. This is something she wanted for a long time, but her fear was keeping her from taking the jump. and when she took the jump she realized that it was not as scary as it looked.
We all want to pursue our passions. We all want to do that one thing that we’ve always wanted to do. We all want to go out there and take that experience. But our fear holds us back. You want to start that business startup. But you are afraid to give up everything that you have for a dream with uncertainty. You want to go out and sing but you are afraid what if it doesn’t work out the way you want it to. You want to be with that person for all of your life, but you are afraid to confess it. Fear of failure, fear of rejection, fear of so many different things is holding us back. Because fear is what confines you in your comfort zone.
And when you try to push this comfort zone, it pushes you back. It stops you from doing the things you are so passionate for.
We all are scared of different things. And it is okay to be scared. But how to overcome this? How to get out of this comfort zone? How to work beyond this comfort zone?
You may be afraid, but it’s these moments where you have to find the courage to stand up. To jump from the edge of your comfort zone to discover the excitement, amazingness, and fascination in life that awaits you. It’s these times, where you have to know that you can live the life of your dreams. This fear is a human emotion. But isn’t it also human to rise above your weaknesses and fears? Isn’t it also human to be your own hero?
Yes, it is. You can do everything and anything you want to without being afraid. Go out there and do it. You will find that

It is not as scary as it looks.

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Be the person you always wanted to be. Forget those limits, reasons that are holding you back. You can break through all of them. You can live fearless, limitless. I can’t guarantee your success or failure. But I can guarantee that when you go fearless, you will discover new limits. You will have pushed yourself beyond your comfort zone. You will start finding new lines to cross. New fears to overcome.Until,

You become comfortable with the uncomfortable.

And you know what the surprising thing is? You won’t stop even when you get everything you wanted. Because now you are living the life of your dreams and you wouldn’t stop living this life of your dreams!!

Why competing with yourself is more important than competing with others?

Earlier, when I learned about Prolophy(Productive-Philosophy) behind the statement about competing with yourself, I spent most of my time comparing myself with the people around me. I compared myself in terms of everything. It was looks, talent, skills, attitude, everything that makes a human. Result? I guess we both (reader and writer that is you and me!) how it turned out to be… Well, it didn’t turn out to be well. It was like torturing myself for the way I am. Which was a somewhat painful process.

So I did some digging, tried to find out the solution to this problem. Out of many substantiated answers, there was one which stumped me.

Compete with nobody,but yourself.

At first, it seemed like obvious and lame to me! I mean this is a big world! There are like 7 billion people out there! But when I thought it more mindfully and practiced it regularly, it turned out to be one of the most thrilling experiences I have ever had. I found many benefits of practicing this statement. That’s what I am gonna talk about today.

  • You get to know yourself.

Sometimes for people like me knowing what you love, who you are, what you want might not be a simple process. I can tell this from my own experience. I was so into being envious of other people that I didn’t know who I was.

But when I started working through this one sentence, when I started competing with myself, I came to know what I like, what I don’t, where can I spend more hours, and where I won’t spend my spare second and everything that lies between. It just changed the way I look at things. I gained a new and fascinating perspective. I gained a new very positive outlook on people.

  • The competition never ends.

Some people may find it equally frustrating as I first did. I mean going on a race without an end? How stupid is that!? But you will know as I did it’s more amazing that you would’ve thought, literally. Its exciting, thrilling and much more that awaits you. How?

because you are constantly on a learning curve. You are improving yourself every moment. Every second you are being a better version of yourself. No matter how much you practice a particular thing there will always be the room of improvement for you. It’s not tiresome! It’s exhilarating!

  • You may find your calling.

Yes, it is possible. Like I have already stated you get to know more of yourself. You rediscover yourself. While going through all the pile of things you want to do you may find that there’s one thing at which you don’t wanna stop. You just wanna grow in the particular area. You just wanna take leaps and break the limits. Then find new limits and break them again. This could be your calling.

Now don’t get me wrong. This is a ‘MAY’- type advantage. You may not find your calling. Maybe you are a multipotentialate! This is one of your extra perks.

  • You accept yourself as who you are.

Yes! no more comparisons. You accept yourself as who you are, genuinely. You get to know where you stand and are willing to improve in every possible area you can. That means you are not uncomfortable with yourself anymore. Even if you are you know for sure that it is not gonna last for a long time.

  • You are insanely productive!

This is one of the perks you might be wanting to get all along. You are doing everything you’ve ever wanted to and guess what, it’s making you more productive than you ever was. This time you are not holding back because you were busy with some other work, but this time you are doing all the things! There no one for you to hold your standard to except you! You trust yourself, and that’s why you move fast and happy!

Of course, these are from the people I have observed and Some things are my own experience. You may have some more powerful or less powerful experiences or this may not be you know just your thing. But I strongly believe that the statement,

Compete with noone but yourself.

has a lot more potential than I have harnessed. So please feel free to share your own experiences and suggestions in the comments section, because you are helping all the people who are gonna read this article by doing that.

Have a good day/night!

 

 

When things look the bleakest…..

A friend of mine was very passionate about a particular type of work he wanted to get done. He was so dedicated and gave his best(at least he thought he did) but in the end, he failed to achieve what he was wanting to achieve. He broke apart, froze. Went from Mr.sunshine to who knows what. When I talked to him he told me about how he felt. At first, he refused to talk about it. He said it made no sense. But when I forced my way into his mind, I discovered he has completely lost hope. He had no expectations of him or anyone or anything. He was just watching at the things in front of him, feeling empty.

Well, his parents saw treatments for him and he was cured. So his concerns are not our concerns now. But, why did this happen? Did he really give his best? Or was his mind painting an illusion for him?

I don’t know the answer. But we have to take care that it doesn’t happen to us. Again, it might not be possible for some people to be hopeful and happy all the time. We all have our moments. So we must the know the way to come out of it.

When things like this happen we lose hope. We see all the roads dark and rocky. We trap ourselves into some boundaries. Not even able to dream of an escape. At such time we feel fearful, painful, hurting and even hopeless and so on.

Accept it. Everybody is afraid. It’s you, me and the also the person who has it all. But somebody of us has to stand up. Find the courage even when you feel there is none. Fight those feelings, even if you don’t want to. Because these feelings live on our fears. Just ask yourself, what would you do if you were not afraid? what would you do at this very moment, if you know there isn’t any fear inside you? You will get your answer. You will know the fact that what are you supposed to do to lead to that life where you was happy and joyful and many different things.

When you break this barrier, these limits, these barricades you will know that they weren’t there. Only the fear, hopelessness and those other negative feelings kept you from doing what you were supposed to do. That’s when you learn what went wrong, and why did it happen. Now you don’t question anything because everything is clear to you. and you know where to go and what to do. That’s when you know that the things aren’t hopeless. And hope can’t win over fear.

It turns out to be that all the negative feelings aren’t as much negative. Because they help you to emerge yourself into a more positive version of yourself.

Next time, when things look the bleakest, ask yourself “what would I do if there was no fear?”.And always remember that

HOPE is far far stronger than FEAR.

Are you afraid of change? How does it matter?

When do you think that everything is going fine, suddenly something happens? Completely unexpected. You get frozen at the ground, afraid to move. This fear is not even has a trigger. Why does this matter? Where does it come from?

This is how I see it.

When something happens with us good or bad, different than our usual routine we blame someone or something. We take it so unexpectedly that it sometimes breaks us.

But the truth is it is not unexpected. If you take a moment, and a deep breath along with it, you will come to know that it was gonna happen and you knew it. You just didn’t care to notice it or you failed to notice it. You got so comfortable with your previous state that you didn’t see what was coming and that’s why its hard for you now.

It won’t be like that forever. Unless you make it too. you have two alternatives now

1)Do nothing

2)Embrace the change.

Of course, I am gonna talk about the 2nd way.

Suppose you find a new job. Now the boss here is so annoying. She constantly thrashes me. She finds faults in a perfect work. She doesn’t see her own faults. She should not be the one who gets to thrash as she is not perfect in the first place. and blah..blah…blah.

I can’t do this job. I am frustrated. I am having fevers, headache because of this job and ta-daah! here is my resignation.

Instead, you can think about it in a very positive way.

This is new. The environment here is new. It’s different. Challenging. I am doing those things that all my previous colleagues are not doing. I am learning new things. I am breaking limits. I am pushing myself. I am reaching new limits.

The moment you find this thought a place in your mind, it will help you to adapt yourself to a new environment. You will learn how to embrace change. You will learn how to change with the situation. and trust me this quality is pure gold. with this quality, you can find your comfort zone in anything you do. And that will help you to achieve excellence in everything in you do.

So from now don’t fear the change instead embrace the change.

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